Save Our Spirits

Dedicated to helping you get in touch with your spirit and with life again.
Dedicated to promoting wellness and a sense of being whole in all areas of our lives.
Dedicated to helping people live their lives joyfully, strongly, fully and freely.

Become whole. Become who you are in the here and now.
Become who you were created to be - a reflection of love.
   Heal your body.      Heal your mind.      Heal your soul.


Suicide is not chosen;
it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.


This site is dedicated to my sister, Jennifer, and her oldest son, James,
both of whom died by suicide at the age of 24.

It is also dedicated to those who suffer emotionally,
those who have family members that suffer
and those who have died as a result of emotional suffering or wounding.


       “I don’t think anyone wants to cut when they are being listened to.”

                                                                                                                                    - S. Hein

While I feel that there many reasons that people die by suicide
I do not feel that most people want to die.
I feel that most have given up hope that things can change for the better
and they are in so much emotional pain that they just want it to stop.
I don't think they feel that they have or know about any other choices
to help their pain go away and that is why they kill themselves.
I would offer new choices to you all.
Please do not give up.
Emotional pain can be reduced or eliminated.
I made it out. So can you.                  


I do not provide any crisis counseling or suicide intervention services. If you are suicidal, please seek immediate medical attention.

While I cannot speak for everyone who dies by suicide, I feel that many suicidal people do not really have any emotional support nor do they feel that they are loved and supported. Their friends and family do love them - they just don't FEEL that love nor is there any real supportive communication in many instances.  I'm not saying this to be hurtful. I'm just trying to be honest. I felt and feel this way sometimes still because of poor communication skills in our family. This can be changed by learning new and healthier communication skills, even if only on the part of the depressed or suicidal person.

Please recognize that many depressed, mentally ill and suicidal people that I have seen and talked to DO NOT feel loved and supported by their friends and family. Many family members would rather ignore the problem or get angry than face their own emotions or those of their children or family members but that will not help the situation. Don't get angry at this statement. Take a good honest look at your style of communication and whether there is really a supportive emotional environment in your family and home or not. It is sometimes worse  and more lonely to be with people, especially family, that don't really talk or listen to you than to be with strangers. The feelings of isolation and excruciating emotional pain can be lessened by learning new coping skills, healthier communications skills and other things to help one become emotionally stronger.
It is also a family thing - these are skills that were not taught to most of us when young, nor were they taught to our parents or their parents. Mostly, things do not get better on down the line. They get worse and end up with depression, mental illness and suicides in families. Ignoring a situation will not make it go away. The way I see it from my own experience is that some very essential life skills are being left out of the upbringing of many, many children in this world today. There are many people out there in excruciating emotional pain that could be eased by learning some new skills.



"Try Again - National Survivors of Sucide Day November 22,      2008' by csuspect. [Artist Seein - ...stick around another day...]


there is light in the darkness...

I was trying to protect myself and my spirit by stuffing her down and not letting her be herself.  I thought I was doing the best possible thing but at some point I realized that I was actually killing this very beautiful child of God who was inside of me, and was me, instead of protecting her.  I saw her and as I tried to stuff her spirit down instead of letting her (me) be herself, the light in her eyes began to dim, despite her struggle to stay alive.

I wasn't doing it on purpose. I only knew how to protect her or stuff her down. I didn't know how to love her or let her be herself . Until I was able to find my connection with God nobody had really showed me how or helped me feel safe to be me.

At this point of realization, I recognized that if I continued to stuff my spirit down, then I became no less guilty of abuse to myself than the ones who had hurt me so badly.


Emotionally healthy people do not die by suicide.

We can change this situation by not blaming ourselves and others but by learning new ways and new skills and connecting with ourselves again on a deeper level. I know that manyof us don't know how to be healthy emotionally. If we can do this now then we will feel better and future generations
will be healthier physically,
emotionally, mentally and spiritually.


I do know that in my own life, that by and out of sharing my suffering with God and with Christ, they also bring me and give to me the most intense joy. This joy and peace then begins to fill my life and last no matter what is happening to me or around me. It also becomes much easier to get back to and stay in a state of joy, peace and love. Cycles in life remain and suffering remains but it is tempered by the joy of God's presence, the peace of Christ and their healing love. 

I also have discovered in my own life that if I cut out of a difficulty or conflict or some suffering because of fear or another reason, that I not only cheat myself out of healing whatever suffering I am going through, but I also cheat myself of letting God/Christ help me through it and the soothing love and healing that comes from sharing suffering with another. In my fear or selfishness, if I run out on conflict, suffering or even life itself (suicide) early, I also cheat God of the ability to love me, to let them into my heart and to show me what unconditional love and sharing the ups and downs of life with another looks like. I learn how to receive and how to give love in a new and expanded way. There is no place I would rather be.

I have also learned some very valuable lessons from my suffering and I have become stronger and even closer to God than ever before as a result of my suffering. Given my stubbornness and tendency to wander at times, suffering also helps hold me close to God and that is ever where I would like to be. I am very grateful for where I am in my life so I would not remove any of the suffering if it would take me away from where I am now. As a result of my suffering I found myself closer to God  and to Christ and to more love than I ever knew was possible.

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