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These are a list of resources of things that I thought might be important to help your children and yourselves. I do not have any children but these are some things that I wished I would have learned when I was younger and that my parents would have either taught to me or spoken to me about at that time. My life would have been a whole lot easier.

There is also a section on resources for parents in the "Suicide Resources" document.



What would help you as parents to be able to talk to your children?

What might be holding you back?

What would you like to see done differently?

What kinds of changes would you like to see?


Reason I'm asking is so that I can put it on the web site for anyone else that might be interested. Of course, this would be anonymously done. I don't know of any other way to really ask anyone what would help them have healthier emotional lives so let me know and I'll see what I can do. I am not a parent but I have done my best here to present you with some of the things that I would have liked to have learned and that I wished my parents would have talked to me about. I know this doesn't come anywhere close to covering everything but I hope to give you a good start or some food for thought anyways.


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I wish, wish, wish, that there would have been more and healthier communication in my family. I do believe that life would have been so much different and so much better if there had been more and healthier communication. I recognize that it isn’t anyone’s fault for one cannot really teach what one does not know. So, there is no blame, only a sincere wish that future generations will be able to communicate better with each other as a result of this effort. I wish that I could have been better friends with my parents and I wish that I would have been able to go to them and talk to them about anything and everything...

While some things cannot be changed, here are some things that I wish would have been different when I was growing up: I wish there would have been more listening instead of telling me how to do things. I wish that there would have been more family discussions and working out of problems. I wish there would have even been more fighting instead of silence for at least there would have been some communication. I wish I would have felt like what I had to say mattered more. I wish I would have had more emotional support. I wish my parents would have been less afraid and more okay to be themselves...

I hope that kids and parents will be able to communicate better as a result of this effort. I hope that parents and children can be friends with each other for I think that is very important. The things we learn as children can color our whole lives. I think that learning communication skills, how to resolve conflict, how to set boundaries, how to deal with anger and other skills would have made a big, big difference for me and resulted in an ability to have healthier relationships in this world and thus I would have felt much less isolated and alone and depressed.

Be as open and as honest with your kids as possible. Don't keep secrets. Talk to them about what is going on and include them in the life of the family.

I recognize that many people have to work, some two or three jobs, to make ends meet and that leaves very little time. I know that there are a lot of reasons for a lack of communication in families so this is an effort to help us make some improvements a little at a time or to be aware that emotional skills seem to be as necessary as physical skills to help us live in this world.
 
I was very, very angry for a long time at my parents because I felt that they had left out a very important part of my upbringing by not teaching me skills and the things that I needed for a healthier emotional life. I felt that they should have known what they needed to know before they had kids so that they could teach them the important skills in life that they needed. Perhaps this is not realistic but how could such important skills get left out of my upbringing? I was so hurt by the emotional pain that this lack of skills caused in my life. While I do not blame them because they didn't know how to teach me, most of my life was still very, very painful for me as a result of the lack of emotional support and communication.

It is so very difficult for all of us to get past these patterns of behavior that have been in our families for generations. I know how very hard it is because I have done it. The parents and the children are hurting and nobody can talk to each other or give each other emotional support. The problems seem to get worse with every generation and if one remains silent then one allows the pain to continue and the darkness to win.

The silence is deafening sometimes and there is a very large elephant in the room that everybody tries to ignore.

I recognize that my family is not the only one with these kinds of problems and that one cannot teach what one does not know or has never learned. I am not blaming anyone for anything that has happened. This is only an effort to help families be healthier emotionally and to reduce the emotional pain for everyone. I would like to help others learn these skills when they are younger so that their lives are not so difficult. Life is hard enough and even more so when one is missing some very essential skills. It is my hope that by reaching current generations and helping them to recognize that these skills are important, that we can help future generations be even more healthy, well and more in touch with themselves, with the Creator and others. I also hope that others will not have to suffer as we do with drug and alcohol addiction, overeating, depression and other forms of mental illness, including anorexia, bulimia, physical or sexual abuse, emotional abuse or neglect, self-abuse, domestic violence, rapes, murders and all manner of painful and hurtful things in this world. 



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Please try to understand that a lack of communication, lack of skills and an inability to have healthy emotional support are responsible for a whole lot of suffering in this world. This might be uncomfortable for you to hear but your children are suffering and your desire in some instances to remain silent, sweep things under the rug or ignore the problem, is only making things worse. You brought us into this world and yet many still refuse to see that their children are suffering horribly because they cannot get past their own fears or pride or whatever it is that is keeping them silent about the suffering of your children. I don't understand at the moment why I was alllowed to suffer so much by my parents or by God. I was ignored for the most part by my parents even though they were aware of the problem. Mostly I think they were uncomfortable with their own feelings. Okay, but what about me. I didn't ask to be brought into this world and now that I am suffering, and have suffered most of my life, I get ignored or yelled at or worst of all, more silence about trying to help people or what I am doing with my life because it makes you uncomfortable.

























































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































































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Most important thing - TALK to your children and then LISTEN as well.
 
Good communication will make a huge difference in your relationship with your children. Children rebel because they get tired of being told what to do. Try to allow them some input of their opinions and what they are feeling into the conversations.

Children that feel isolated and alone will go looking elsewhere for the love and support that they do not feel that they are getting at home.

Doesn't matter if you love them but don't talk to them and help them to feel included and important.

Children in pain and any kind of emotional suffering will go looking for comfort be it from other friends, drugs, alcohol, food and other methods to help get rid of or ease their pain.

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The War on Kids (2009)

This film examines the many ways the public school system has failed children and our future by robbing students of all freedoms due largely to irrational fears. Children are subjected to endure prison-like security, arbitrary punishments, and pharmacological abuse through the forced prescription of dangerous drugs. Even with these measures, schools not only fail to educate students, but the drive to teach has become secondary to the need to control children.

What an eye-opening watch. Find this video and give it a look.

No wonder kids are so very angry. Take a really good look and consider what we are doing to their souls. How would you like to be treated like this?

See this movie at:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SaZ5W_Wkbx0


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"The Journal of the American Medical Association published the definitive study on the impact of TV violence. It compared two nations or regions that were demographically and ethnically identical; only one variable is different: the presence of television. In every nation, region, or city with television, there is an immediate explosion of violence on the playground, and within 15 years there is a doubling of the murder rate.  Why 15 years? That is how long it takes for the brutalization of a three-to five-year-old to reach the ‘prime crime age.'" http://www.crossroad.to/articles2/04/toying-with-death.htm.

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"Before the Appleton Wisconsin high school replaced their cafeteria's processed foods with wholesome, nutritious food, the school was described as out-of-control. There were weapons violations, student disruptions, and a cop on duty full-time. After the change in school meals, the students were calm, focused, and orderly. There were no more weapons violations, and no suicides, expulsions, dropouts, or drug violations. …"
-- Jeffrey M. Smith, Author of
Seeds of Deception[1] http://www.wanttoknow.info/050520schooldietchange

In other words, no sodas, fast foods, junk food snacks, processed foods and other high calorie, low nutrient foods. Instead, a focus on whole foods in their natural state, such as fruits, vegetables, lean meats, sea vegetables, grains and little to no chips, candy, sodas, sugar and stuff. Make the processed, microwave foods and such a treat or a once a week thing instead of the bulk of the normal diet. Have your dessert but try lower calorie options or have it 1-2 times per week instead of every day.

There is a lot of evidence out there now that shows that food has a much bigger influence on how we act, think and behave than previously thought. I know that processed food is cheap but vegetables will fill your kids up as well as chips, if not better, and they will not be as hungry or as irritable. Give it a try even for two weeks and see what happens.

Try buying and serving your kids apples, bananas and such instead of cakes, pies, cookies, chips and candy bars for the most part and see if you don't notice a difference in their mental state, their behavior, sleeping habits, etc. Kids too, too hyper...try cutting out the sugar and processed foods and giving them fruit and meals made with whole foods such as chicken, roast with vegetables, vegetarian meals and whole grains, including whole grain bread, instead and see if you don't notice a difference.  Try leaving a plate of cut up vegetables and some dip in the fridge instead of microwave foods. What about already sliced lean meats as well or premade salad mixes and such which are easy to grab and go. Have a bowl full of fruit on the counter to snack on anytime.

Also consider what you are giving them in other parts of their lives..such as high violence on television, horror movies with lots of killing and fear, high violence video games, too much computer time and not enough play time outdoors.  Just think about these things and how they could be impacting you and your children.

Buy some games to play with your kids. Talk to your kids. Have a power out night once a week when there are no electrical things like television, computers, ipads, mp3 players, video games and such allowed. Go for walks.

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"If your kids KNOW that you love them, then they'll give you their heart….Parents are mostly to blame for not spending quality time with their teens. Listen parent, you ought to be best friends with your teen. A teenager who is loved [most importantly, one who FEELS loved and supported] by their parents won't have a need to identify with others who are in their same lonesome boat. If you don't make time for your kids, the Devil certainly will."
http://www.jesus-is-savior.com/Evils%20in%20America/goth.htm.

Kids WILL go looking for love, attention and support wherever they can find it if they don't feel that they are getting these things at home. Lots of times they find other kids who feel the same way. They start looking for drugs and other things to numb their pain and they don't know of any way to deal with their problems in a healthy way so drugs and alcohol are appealing, among other things. It helps people to escape their pain and loneliness for a time. I think that we can help kids and possibly prevent a lot of emotional suffering and suicides by helping them and us to learn healthier emotional skills. I think we could also change some of the things in our culture, like the media's focus on physical beauty, violence, material goods, fear and other things that would help our kids and ourselves fare better emotionally in this world.




I know this because I was a lonely kid. I ended up hanging out with others who felt the same way. I also felt that I was susceptible to abuse, mistreatment and other potential dangers because I didn't know how to set boundaries and to protect myself. I also wanted attention so badly that I was willing to take it from people, mostly men, who were emotionally distant and controlling. This is very dangerous and I think lots of kids want attention. This got worse over the years as my fear increased and my relationships got worse. Finally, I just quit having relationships.

Then I got caught up into some of the New Age practices/teachings and that got me into trouble. This is explained in the book in more detail. Not enough room to go into it here. I wasn't doing any black magic, spells, channeling and such, but I did have a few psychic readings done and I was following teachings that I thought were of God, but ultimately were not, and I was in trouble. This is because I was given love, support and teaching which I wanted so much but I was fooled in the process.


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"But what do we call it when a depressed, suicidal teenager depends on the Internet for emotional support and the parent takes their Internet away? This week alone three teens have told us their parents have taken away their Internet all together, stopped them from going online when they need to, or blocked the chat group which they rely on for emotional support.'
http://eqi.org/teens_internet_emotional_neglect.htm


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Please recognize that many depressed, mentally ill and suicidal people that I have seen and talked to DO NOT feel loved and supported by their friends and family. It isn't that they aren't loved - they are - but they don't feel like it. Many family members would rather ignore the problem or get angry than face their own emotions or those of their children or family members but that will not help the situation. Don't get angry at this statement. Take a good honest look at your style of communication and whether there is really a supportive emotional environment in your family and home or not. It is sometimes worse and more lonely to be with people, especially family, that don't really talk or listen to you than to be with strangers. The feelings of isolation and excruciating emotional pain can be lessened by learning new coping skills, healthier communications skills and other things to help one become emotionally stronger.

Medication can be the problem in many instances and make symptoms worse and contribute to psychosis, suicidal thoughts and worening symptoms. Despite medication, many people seem to experience a worsening of symptoms so what are the medications correcting, or are they correcting anything? According to many medical professionals, there has never been any kind of chemical imbalnce proven to exist and it is still a theory. Nobody really knows how it works. Besides, medication may help us manage but it does not help us learn to deal with life or our problems in a better manner or really help us to resolve the issues. It doesn't seem to get rid of the actual causes of the symptoms and medication seems to be used too often these days before anything else is tried.


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 http://educate-yourself.org/mc/srapredatorstoolkit14may02.shtml 
“The Predator’s Toolkit.” A look at how pedophiles target your kids and how to protect your kids from sexual predators...

"1. Finds the desired child or teen. 2. Befriends them, gains their trust. 3. Gains the trust of the parents so they won’t suspect. 4. Makes the boy feel important through lots of time and personal attention, makes him feel he is more important to him than anybody. 5. Flatters him. Tells him he’s handsome, smart, etc. 6. Makes plans for private time with him."

See the above article for more information.


WHAT YOU CAN DO: Help your kids learn about personal boundaries and how to protect and stand up for themselves. Help them learn respect for themselves and others. Help them feel loved and supported at home in all ways, especially emotionally. Abusers often pick on lonely, vulnerable or weak kids and teens and try to gain their trust.  Kids want attention and they trust others. None of us really think that others are out to harm us. Not that we should be very afraid. Common sense and some good skills will go a long ways towards helping your kids be less likely to get tricked or trapped.

Explain to your kids what is appropriate and what is not appropriate as far as touching, kissing, hugging, sexual behavior (all of this depends upon the age of the child) and anything else that they might need to know. If they don't know what is okay and what is not okay or what is and is not abuse, then things are confusing and they don't know what to do when something happens. If you let them know what is and what is not age appropriate behavior, then they will have an easier time saying no to an abuser of any kind whether it be a relative, a coach, a schoolmate, a teacher, their date, their potential spouses, parents and more.



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Affection, sharing, spending time with one another, talking, laughing, playing games, being okay with what you are feeling, no television on at dinner time...

 

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www.Familytv.com                                                       
Feature Films For Families.

You can sign up for a membership here to receive family-oriented films that help children learn skills and lessons for living healthier.

What I like about movies from this company is that the whole family can watch the movies and then you can all discuss certain questions at the end. These are usually about how we can help each other,  what is the best way to handle a situation and other questions that kids might like to know the answers to so that they can have an easier time in life instead of trying to figure it all out for themselves. The questions are also a good way to start a family discussion.      

  

I had to take out the web address for this game for now due to a viral attack at the web site. I don't recommend going to the site but to amazon instead. 
“Food for Talk” game. Bringing families together one conversation at a time. You pick a card such as “If you could pick one day in your life that you would change, what would it be and why.” Then you talk about it with someone else, your family, friends or others.


You can find the game on http://www.amazon.com/ for a reasonable price.


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... sees patients as young as six with eating disorders, depression and low self-esteem…Sadly, some people just don’t “get it”. Some people, including parents, view the sexualization of children as something of minor importance, while the APA report concluded that young boys and girls are growing up to view themselves as sex objects and are more likely to experience poor self-image, eating disorders, depression, academic failure in school, low self-confidence, with increased likelihood of engaging in sexual activity at a very young age….[1]

http://www.tellinitlikeitis.net/2009/03/the-sexualization-of-children-and-adolescents-epidemic.html
 “The Sexualization of Children and Adolescents Epidemic.”

        The APA report states that:  Sexualization occurs when

  • a person’s value comes only from his or her sexual appeal or behavior, to the exclusion of other characteristics;
  • a person is held to a standard that equates physical attractiveness (narrowly defined) with being sexy;
  • a person is sexually objectified—that is, made into a thing for others’ sexual use, rather than seen as a person with the capacity for independent action and decision making; and/or …[2]

 This is happening a lot these days. Do you really want your children to grow up feeling this way? There is so much more to us than how we look like on the outside. 

                                                                                   



As parents we can't hide our children in the closet. The world is sexually complicated for all children but our job is not to run away from it. Rather, we need to make sure we speak, listen, and guide our children every day so they can make sense of their sexualized world. Remember two very important facts: One, your voice as a parent IS more powerful than your child's peers and the media; and two, talking about sex and sexuality with your child will NOT increase their interest in sex; only help them act more responsibly. It really is this simple.

http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-your-child-needs-know-about-sex-and-when/201109/the-super-sexualization-children-time-take

 

 

Killing Us Softly3: Advertising’s Image of Women

http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/killing-us-softly-3/

“Jean Kilbourne continues her groundbreaking analysis of advertising’s depiction of women in this most recent update of her pioneering Killing Us Softly series. In fascinating detail, Kilbourne decodes an array of print and television advertisements to reveal a pattern of disturbing and destructive gender stereotypes. Her analysis challenges us to consider the relationship between advertising and broader issues of culture, identity, sexism, and gender violence.

Sections: Does the beauty ideal still tyrannize women? | Does advertising still objectify women’s bodies? | Are the twin themes of liberation and weight control still linked? | Is sexuality still presented as women’s main concern? | Are young girls still sexualized? | Are grown women infantilized? | Are images of male violence against women still used to sell products?”


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The Drugging of our Children
http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/the-drugging-of-our-children/
“In the absence of any objective medical tests to determine who has ADD or ADHD, doctors rely in part on standardized assessments and the impressions of teachers and guardians while they administer leave little room for other causes or aggravating factors, such as diet, or environment. Hence, diagnosing a child or adolescent with ADD or ADHD is often the outcome, although no organic basis for either disease has yet to be clinically proven. Psychiatrists may then prescribe psychotropic drugs for the children without first without making it clear to parents that these medications can have severe side-effects including insomnia, loss of appetite, headaches, psychotic symptoms and even potentially fatal adverse reactions, such as cardiac arrhythmia. And yet, despite these dangers, many school systems actually work with government agencies to force parents to drug their children, threatening those who refuse with the prospect of having their children taken from the home unless they cooperate.”

Millions of children are currently taking prescriptions for these drugs without other options being considered first. It seems that it is easier to drug the children because they don't fit in some kind of a box or people don't want to take the time to support them and find out what is really going on, whether it be a need for a change in nutrition habits, helping them to eat a healthy breakfast, supporting their spirits and what they need or many other reasons. We are doing our children and ourselves a huge disservice by medicating them without looking at other options first. Also, since when do the government and the schools have the right to force parents to medicate their children in order for them to stay in school? This is happening already and could continue to escalate if not addressed now.

Suppose a group of children is standing on the shore of an island … waving their arms... the universal distress signal. .. imagine that a 'hospital ship' spots the children … the doctor orders the nurses to give the children Prozac or Ritalin to abort their signals of distress… the ship departs without finding out why the children are alone on the island, where their parents are…ridiculous… this is happening throughout the nation. Millions of children are desperately signaling distress and doctors are sending them home with drugs that suppress their ability to communicate their distress.[1]
 


 

[1] Peter R. Breggin, M.D., in his book Reclaiming Our Children (Perseus Books, Cambridge, Mass., 2000), page 142, as quoted on http://www.antipsychiatry.org/drugs.htm.

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Fast Food Baby

http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/fast-food-baby/

 “Our junk food addiction is dropping alarmingly down the age ladder and we are now rearing a generation of fast food babies. This arresting documentary reveals babies and toddlers eating a diet of chips, burgers and kebabs, all washed down with bottles of fizzy cola. It explores the deep-seated reasons why parents resort to junk food feeding and follows three families as they desperately try and get back on the right nutritional track. From gentle food play to dramatic shocks, the parents team up with real experts who mentor them through the latest techniques as they try to wean their children off fast food.”

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 Vaccine Nation

http://topdocumentaryfilms.com/vaccine-nation/
“For most people, vaccinating themselves and their children seems like a good idea. Vaccines are safe, effective and are supposed to protect us against dangerous infectious diseases – ..: See the truth about the dangers of vaccines and their direct relationship to autoimmune diseases, infections, allergies and a massive increase of developmental learning and behavioral disorders in children, such as Autism. Discover the truth about the history of vaccines and how they have NEVER been proven to be safe and effective for anyone.”


 

[2] http://www.apa.org/pi/women/programs/girls/report.aspx .


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Let's go deeper. In general, so-called contagious diseases are caused, not by germs, but by IMMUNE SYSTEMS THAT ARE TOO WEAK TO FIGHT OFF THOSE GERMS.

                                                                                                                Jon Rappoport



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The proper pH, or acidity and alkalinity of the body and its fluids can help prevent disease and other ailments.
Try for an 80% alkaline and 20% acid diet to rebuild and rebalance the body. Generally, fruits and vegetables are alkaline and meat, sugar and processed foods are acid. See the Misc. Resources section for more info.



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http://www.ehow.com/about_6544969_fluoride-rat-poison.html

"Though it varies with age, the Food and Drug Administration has determined a recommended daily allowance for fluoride to maintain healthy teeth and bones. Regardless of age, the recommended dosage is quite small and can be obtained by eating a balanced diet."

Read more: Fluoride in Rat Poison | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/about_6544969_fluoride-rat-poison.html#ixzz23pxdYs4n


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Here are a couple of articles that talk about the basics of learning to feel:

http://www.care2.com/greenliving/learning-to-feel.html
"Learning to feel."

www.health-science-spirit.com/learntofeel.html
"Learning to Feel" by Walter Last Some practical exercises for learning to feel your feeling, how we build armor around us to protect us, mirror exercises, feeling exercises, letting go exercises, emotions and body language and much, much more. Give this a go."


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From a parent:

http://shine.yahoo.com/dailyshot/daily-shot-talking-kids-porn-170600301.html

"Daily Shot: Talking to Your Kids About Porn

  Bill Morgan •League CIty, Texas • 1 day 2 hours agoReport Abuse

It is really not that tough - be direct, and do not lie...that is the way to talk to kids about all "tough" subjects! Twenty minutes per day of direct conversation (communication both ways) with your child/teenager will work wonders for your relationship!”

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RW: Millions of kids! Think about what we're doing. We're robbing kids of their right to be kids, their right to grow, their right to experience their full range of emotions, and their right to experience the world in its full hue of colors. That's what growing up is, that's what being alive is! And we're robbing kids of their right to be. It's so criminal. And we're talking about millions of kids who have been affected this way. There are some colleges where something like 40 to 50 percent of the kids arrive with a psychiatric prescription.
http://www.adhdnews.com/testforum/test12164.htm

 From an interview with Robert Whitaker, author of Mad in America.

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I know that you love your children. I know that you are doing the best that you can with what you know.

 A healthy emotional upbringing is just as important as any physical or spiritual upbringing in life.

Many times, I wished that I had never been born because of the intense emotional pain, loneliness, isolation, lack of emotional support and a definite inability to reach out to and feel comfortable with other people. I have changed that feeling as a result of all that I have experienced and have learned but I feel that many of us could definitely use some improvement in the emotional and communication departments of life. I think education and teaching new skills would go a long way in helping to reduce depression, emotional suffering, suicide and other symptoms of mental [spiritual] illness in our society.

It starts with us and with what we teach our children and with what they teach their children….and so on down the line.


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http://shine.yahoo.com/parenting/kids-learn-marriage-152500713.html

“What Your Kids Learn From Your Marriage.”

"Practicing forgiveness: Learning how to resolve conflict without the drama of punishing each other with long silences and days of tension is paramount in teaching your kids a better way. If you work together to address the real source of disagreements and deepen your understanding of each other, you can show by example the path from conflict to understanding, resolution to deeper love. "

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Our society has institutionalized drug abuse among our children. Worse yet, we abuse our children with drugs rather than making the effort to find better ways to meet their needs. In the long run, we are giving our children a very bad lesson--that drugs are the answer to emotional problems. We are encouraging a generation of youngsters to grow up relying on psychiatric drugs rather than on themselves and other human resources.

                                                                                                                                                Peter Breggin,M.D.

http://antipsychiatry.org/ritalin.htm

Vital Information About Ritalin, Attention Deficit-Hyperactivity Disorder and the Politics Behind the ADHD/Ritalin Movement. Summarized from Talking Back to Ritalin by Peter R. Breggin, M.D.

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                                        Children NEED boundaries and discipline.

You are NOT doing them any favors by giving them everything that they want and letting them do what they want. Giving them whatever they want because you don’t want to make them cry or you don’t know how to stand up for yourself, teaches children that life will give them everything that they want (no), that they don’t have to do anything for themselves or others. It does not teach them about learning from their mistakes, how to be responsible, how to take care of themselves, how to rise above failure and the consequences of their actions. They will not have respect for you and when you try to tell them what to do or try to get them to do stuff, they will not do it and will fight you.

 

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PARENTS, for (YouTube videos)

I wish, wish, wish that there would have been more communication in my family. I do believe that life would have been so much different and so much better if there had been more and healthier communication. I recognize that it isn’t anyone’s fault for one cannot really teach what one does not know. So, there is no blame, only a sincere wish that future generations will communicate better with each other as a result of this effort.


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hese are some of the things that I wished that I had learned when I was younger…and more or that I feel might be beneficial to learn when we are young. Of course we can learn these skills and such at any time, but I think it imight be easier when we are younger.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPVId8GFrs0&feature=related
                                             
10 Reasons Not To Use a Ouija Board” by KameoElemental.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=a9WikQG5sGM&feature=related

                                                              “Occult Truth of Ouija boards revealed” by Nephtali1981.

We had one of these boards when I was a kid. I don’t know how we got it.After using it I felt for months that something was not right and that there were scary things in the house. We had weird things start to happen in the house and I was scared to go to sleep for a long time. Nothing good comes out of using these items and they draw in darkness.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BdWKy0TPW2U&feature=watch_response

                               “Even Some Spiritualists Warn Against The Ouija Board!” by Shazoolo.

These boards bring in nasty, nasty stuff - nothing nice.
Even adults involved in the new age don't use these things.
Little do they know what they are really dealing with most of the time.
Stay away from them and keep your kids away as well.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=el3g35rfLso&feature=related

“10 Obvious Signs of Emotionally Abusive Relationships” by maxvideoxz.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hOmsMzUbh3k

“How to Cope With Emotional Abuse” by ecounseling.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTQy7zjUGvk&feature=related

“Recognising Emotional Abuse --- Deal With It”by ChangingPost.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YT-ljRgZb8I&feature=relmfu

“Emotional Abuse Blog –Notice the Patterns”by ChangingPost.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZvzh7uxt_c

“10 Tips for Creating Boundaries” by borntosucceed.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ixXzusKffsI&feature=related

“a message to parents about self-injury” by recovered cutter.
 

www.youtube.com/watch?v=VS2mfWDryPE&feature=related
                                                                               
“Anorexia’s Living Face (CBS News)” by CBS.


http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=table+manners&view=detail&mid=1308E779BDA0D166FCDD1308E779BDA0D166FCDD&first=0&qpvt=table+manners                                                         
"Basic Table Manners Lesson” by monkeysee.com.
http://www.bing.com/videos/searchq=table+manners&view=detail&mid=C569EA6B389426C6FEC0C569EA6B389426C6FEC0&first=0&qpvt=table+manners
 
                                                                         “Tips on Table Manners for Kids” by Karina Fraley.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Xp4ftk5Z-I

“The Beauty of Sit-Spot” by wildearthschildren.

How to connect with nature in a closer way.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zk8d09C218

                                                                                   “Boundaries with Kids” by biblestudysearch.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g7rACI-WJEw 
                                                                   
 “CCHR: Big Pharma-Define ‘Better’” by EBChill.

 

This video is about some of the effects of giving psychiatric meds to children, including anti-depressants and more. Could we all be doing things differently such as proper nutrition, talking to our kids, supporting our kids or helping them have better life skills first, before considering medication.

How about asking your child what they need first?

What about ourselves, those of us who take antidepressants?

We could do the same for ourselves that we would do for our children.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=7dUYXptYycU&feature=related

“Child Emotional Abuse” by AEEA2008.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUsKL1JRcR4

“Emotional neglect” by agbw.

 


www.youtube.com/watch?v=7zoi_lMkXKI&feature=relmfu

“Conflict: The Top Ten Starters and Stoppers - Sunburst Visual Media Guidance.

Trailer” by CerebellumCorp.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZV1fWtMAKRk

“Deep Feeling Therapy: Healing Emotional Pain with Dr. Paul Hanning” by phanning.

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www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9p5iyr5bXc&feature=related 

”Depression and Suicide Awareness - I’m Not Alright” by xxxARMYstrongxxx.

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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gBkLGihkfy8 
           
“’Why People Don’t Respect Me?’ – Boundaries Re:Life 005-Ed Kang” by edkang99.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=SUsKL1JRcR4

“Emotional neglect” by agbw.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=bcUudYbisLg&feature=related

“Fat kid” by dexter12322222222222.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=cNATWsVVwgo&feature=related

“Jessica – WAS World’s Fattest Child” by tubeseantube.

 

www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-2M8mSnaVg&feature=relmfu

“How to Talk with Children: How to Build Confidence in Children” by expertvillage.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=HjRIg-u_2Po&feature=relmfu

“How to Talk with Children: How to Teach Children Respect” by expertvillage.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=MF9LN7V0F_0

“How to Talk with Children: Learn the Importance of Being Clear as a Parent” by expertvillage.

 

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www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kn18H3FKDV4

                    “Kid slaps his own mother on Dr. Phil (5-20-2008)” by GollyGeezitsMook.

  www.youtube.com/watch?v=FLCIrizzFGM&feature=related

            “Dr. Phil talks with the mother and son after the slap (5-20-2008)” by GollyGeezItsMook.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JAW4LIFYFng&feature=related

“Media’s Effect on Beauty” by esalaj7.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y1CiNGVAkBM

“Nine essentials most parents aren’t teaching their kids. (Are YOU?)” by geracacn.

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  1. Personal and social AWARENESS
  2. Spiritual (awareness and) growth and their life purpose
  3. About their personality subselves (Lesson 1) [on breakthecycle.org]
  4. Self respect
  5. Social respect (tolerance)
  6. To be aware of and USE all emotions
  7. Effective communication (Lesson 2)
  8. How to grieve (Lesson 3)
  9. To accept limitations and learn from their mistakes.

Dr. Gerlach’s web site is www.breakthecycle.org.

I personally believe that learning some of these skills

has changed my life for the better.

Although I learned some of these in the outpatient program they

can be learned online and in therapy.

I was miserable in my life without any of these skills and most of

my relationships were superficial and unsatisfying as a result.

I wish…so very much…that I could have learned these skills as a child.

 

 

http://www.bing.com/videos/search?q=you+tube+options+for+parenting+difficult+kids+effectively&view=detail&mid=288CAB750810EECDC4E1288CAB750810EECDC4E1&first=0

“Options for parenting “difficult” kids effectively” by geracacn.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=CZaP8QQkY68&feature=related

“Prevention of Teen Drug Abuse.wmv [describes types and kinds of drugs”] by mega0313.

 

www.youtube.com/watch?NR=1&v=cHHQutDxMVo

“Teen Drug Abuse - Warning Signs” by drmdk.

 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qrWP1Iaw5OM&feature=fvwrel

“Teenage Suicide” by willp1601.
 

http://www.bing.com/videos/searchq=teen+drug+statistics+addiction+coalition&view=detail&mid=615018CA34490A6D6940615018CA34490A6D6940&first=0

“Teen Drug Statistics” by AddictionCoalition.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=6FIVOY7QKLk

“Teen Depression & Suicide: Message for Parents” by revgenelson.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=JC3iRpeZc5Y&feature=related

“Teen Depression and Suicide: A Message for Teens” by revgenelson.

The kids are hurting but they don’t know how to tell you about their pain.

Please do not ignore the problem and think it will just go away. It won’t.

If your child comes to you, please listen and get help and support.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=rmOX55GBGIk&feature=related

“Teenage insider Exposes MindControl NWO propaganda in School” by Thegovernmentrag.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=TmKMXe3nRTA&feature=related

“Top-10 Ways to Identify Co-Dependency” by AtTheWellMinistries.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=4wQBfuMVkmM&feature=related

“Top-10 Actions to Break Co-Dependency [Part 1]” by AtTheWellMinistries.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=E7uY05_PXc0&feature=related

“Top-10 Actions to Break co-Dependency Part 2" by AtTheWellMinistries.


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-uCkf77KBnA
 
                                           “True Freedom From Addictions – Lana Pritzker” by Americast.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=ceqo_XpEUwk&feature=related

“Suicide Signs - Don’t Give Up” by iSlForLife.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FAwMPvjSVV0

“How to Ask Someone if He or She is Suicidal” by HealthDot

www.youtube.com/watch?v=E1LG9NymhTE&feature=related

“A Cyber Bullying Suicide Story - Ryan Halligan age 13" by KLSSupport.  

www.youtube.com/watch?v=gTwkVKHcArc&feature=related

“Teen Suicide Prevention” by abandonedxchaos.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=UegUDPXq2-w&feature=related

“Teenage Suicide and A Parent’s Nightmare Part 1" by jessicarector.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=jYADQQqZ5lk&feature=related

“Teaching Children Respect, Responsibility and Cooperation” by Lifeisgreat224
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K5ubZ_QNn1Y&feature=related

“Walt Disney Subliminals” by UndefeatedArmy09.

See also http://theconspiracyzone.podcastpeople.com/posts/32979 for more information and examples.
 I do not agree with any kind of discrimination against any group of persons for any reason but I feel that this article presents some good points.

 


 

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sZPDjz7L0Uw      

                                                                       “Words Hurt - Don’t be a part of it” by KentSmeltzer.

This clip might have kids in it, but words hurt just the same, even if we are adults.

We feel the energy of the words we say to each other and that energy can have even more impact than the words.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=c4s3CvFIoCU&feature=related 

“Words mean something...a moving and inspiring video” by ThinktownUSA.


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If our lives are going to be at all worthy, it will be because of two factors: What we aim for in life and recognizing who we are. The first may be simply described by saying, "You gotta have high hopes," and we can have no higher aim in life than to do the will of the Father. The second can be understood by grasping why psychologists keep trying to persuade parents to work to build their children's self-esteem. They have observed that, if children do not think they are anything or can do anything, are of no value and unloved, or have absolutely no skills, they will not do anything. They will spend their lives cowering in self-pity and spinning their wheels in ineffective, low-level activity. [emphasis added]

http://www.cgg.org/index.cfm/fuseaction/Library.sr/CT/PERSONAL/k/757/The-Elements-of-Motivation-Part-Five-Who-We-Are.htm


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http://www.birthinjuryguide.org/

Is my child displaying symptoms of a birth injury? What exactly is a birth injury and how did this happen? Is my doctor to blame? What should I do once I find out my child has a birth injury? What will life with a child with a birth injury look like, and what is the prognosis of certain birth injuries? It’s natural for these and many more questions to come to mind. At Birth Injury Guide we strive to answer all your questions with the hope that we can help guide you and make your life a little easier if your child or loved one has a birth injury.

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https://www.sfhs.com/uploaded/guidance/College_Counseling/99_Tips_for_Talking_with_your_Teen.pdf

 

ninety-nine tips for talking with your teenager

 The Peninsula’s top mental health professionals share their experti

 

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http://www.whatisthe99.com/

 

The 99 is a walkthrough theater that graphically reinacts the five leading causes of death in teenagers and young adults.  Many of these deaths are influenced by drugs or alcohol and a vast majority of them can be avoided.

 

 

 

The 99 is a state-of-the-art production designed to portray the very real consequences of poor decisions that claim almost 37,000 young lives every year.  The production is not based on fear or scare tactics, but rather is based solely on reality with each room designed from real life situations. 

 

Here are the locations and also some videos to watch.

 

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To commence Children's Mental Health Week (February 8-14) in the U.K., the Duchess of Cambridge is calling for stronger support for children's emotional well-being. In partnership with Place2BE, an organization that provides emotional support to children in school, Kate Middleton, a vocal supporter of adolescent issues, sat down to discuss the importance of providing young students with the assistance to "cope with life's challenges."

"Every child deserves to grow up knowing their potential and feeling confident that they won't fall at the first hurdle," The Duchess began. "With early support, they can learn to manage their emotions and feelings and know when to seek help," she later added.



http://www.harpersbazaar.com/celebrity/latest/a14103/kate-middleton-video-message-childrens-mental-health-week/

 

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